Saturday, 8 November 2014
Tuesday, 28 October 2014
- Relationships. Friends, family,community, colleagues.
- Angels, faith and the supernatural
- Positive attitude (aka Optimism)
- Ability or the willingness to learn to regulate emotions
- Being prepared to carry on regardless
- Using Failure as feedback
- Helping others/Altruism
- Finding projects to focus on
- Courage to face your fears
- Faith or beliefs in angels or the supernatural
- Regular physical exercise
- Healthy diet
Saturday, 27 September 2014
Saturday, 30 August 2014
There are numerous well evidenced ways to understand this in literature about mental health and child development:
We learn to care for ourselves from the example of those who care for us when we are little.
Aka, if we experience love as children, we learn to love ourselves and others.
And if we don't then we need to learn as adults.
The ability and motivation to care for ourselves is a paradox
Everybody who has it can take it for granted, and might feel ashamed if they demonstrate a failure to care for themselves. However many people struggle to meet even their most basic needs, and some people experience guilt and shame when they look after themselves.
Sometimes this can be linked back to trauma, but it can also often be linked back to childhood. It is now almost universally accepted that children who are neglected or abused grow in to adults with emotional/behavioural problems.
Those neglectful or abusive experiences can be understood as trauma, which enables us to bring a modern scientific understanding to the process of recovery.
We can also understand the impact of being raised in an environment where neglectful and abusive experiences occur and recur as influencing all the other functions of childhood, developing a personality, learning, acquiring skills. In this understanding the emotional and physical environment of childhood teaches us our worth (limited) our role (to care for others or at least to prioritise their needs) and what we can expect from life (pain).
If you are feeling miserable, uncomfortable, unwell, then the instant comfort of junk food may appeal more than making the effort to cook a proper meal. The same would apply to drugs (including alcohol, nicotine and caffeine). If you feel good, you will find it easier to avoid behaviors which make you feel better straight away but have no long term benefit.